It's a tough place to be in

I think it's a tough place to be in. Definitely a hard position to maintain. I've been criticized for being this way, called harsh or not empathetic. I have no remorse for this of course. The whole way that I operate is with the intent to remain objective. Do I mind being an outlet for you? No. If anything I'm very open and happy to be the person you come to. To be the person you choose to share your insecurities with, the one you seek council from. However, let's not get it confused. I do not aim to embody the role of a person who will fill you with false information, who will always agree with you. I will not be your cheerleader in every instance. I guess that's the distinction between friends and real-friends. The people who maintain a sense of realness in life are often criticized for being too harsh but honestly I wouldn't want to be known as anything else. I would want to possess the same qualities that I would expect in a real friend. I want you to call me out on my bullshit, tell me how it is, and be as blunt as possible. I'm not about sugar-coating things, granted I do have my moments of reluctance. Regardless, I think it is in both mine and your best interest to be 100% honest. Honesty is the only way that I can give you the feedback that you need. I'm gonna be that person who's gonna say the shit you don't want to hear, not because I want to flourish negativity, I just want you to hear it from someone who truly cares about you and is invested in your advancement and repair. If my disposition puts a strain on our relationship because you cannot except the truth well that is unfortunate. Maybe you should not look to me any longer. You know you can only offer so much advice or provide people with the tools necessary to advice until it gets tired. The victim act and helpless nature gets old after awhile. Sooner or later you pick yourself up and move toward a different direction, or you give up and allow yourself to become stagnant. I'm sorry I'm not sorry. I can't solve it for you. You have to find it within yourself. Like I said, it's a tough place to be in. Life gets shitty. It offers no explanations and has no remorse for it's actions. It is unjust and unfair and unkind. But you have to be stronger than that. Maybe that's why I am the way I am. I've been through some shit and I know there is going to be more shit to go through. But it's all about perspective. It's about how you look at things. There's a difference between recognizing real and existing in a place of harshness and hate.. if you can't distinguish the two, then you have a long way to go.